Am I a bad person that I DIDN’T cry over Michael Jackson’s death? He wasn’t a personal friend of mine; we weren’t even close to six degrees of separation there.

I believe he was one of the world’s greatest performers and, while a little crazy at the end, a brilliant and talented man. With that said. why is everyone so sad? MJ hadn’t come out with a new song in years. He had all but fallen off the face of the earth after the scandal regarding his and other’s children. He had JUST announced that he would be doing a world tour again, but very little prep work had been done for that.

I am insensitive for not weeping on national television like so many people holding ‘vigils’? I don’t think so. I think I am being realistic. Does anyone agree with me?

Today is Husbands and my First Anniversary.  I want to take this chance to thank everyone for their kind words and well wishes.  Our first year was really easy.  And apparently, the first is the easiest year of them all, so hopefully over the next seven years it will be only slightly harder than the last. 

Here is a sampling from the plans about a weeks before the wedding.  It may seem calm, but inside I was bouncing off the walls of my own head.  Enjoy!

Elope.  No, not really. Planning this wedding has been one of the most fun experiences that I could have shared with Fiance, not to mention, really handy for bringing out my girly side.

We’ve been really cool about everything happening just the way it is supposed to. Without much trouble, things have just fallen into place. The chair covers were a God-send, and not a moment too soon. We were so lucky to get them, and so lucky that the lady was available, and so SO lucky that the lady was nice and old and cute and didn’t feel the need to gouge us. Our decorator has been a dream! She was so receptive to our (my) ideas for the decor at the reception. She didn’t balk when I asked for different centerpieces. Four times. She gave me new, better pieces with a smile on her face. And I didn’t even see a hint of a grimace! She didn’t try to pressure me to get flowers at the ceremony, at the behest of Future-MIL, even though it would have meant more money for her. Our DJ is a good friend of Fiance’s. When other companies were charging 700-800$ for 3 or 4 hours of music, the Bekx Brothers offered to play all night for $400 and a meal. Talk about nice. I have the dress I want, the shoes I want, the cake I want, the hair I want, the party I want and the girls I want.

Then today. Oh today. I worked this morning until 2 am for a friend who had to attend a mtg at 8. Poor planning on managements part, but I digress. When I woke, I had a strong, sudden urge to get all of the wedding finances in order. Shouldn’t that have been done already, you ask? Nah. Well, it would have been good. Okay, fine, yes. I should have been done like 2 weeks ago. But we didn’t have everything decided on just yet. But this morning, it was Business Time. We decided to pay for the condos beforehand, so no one had to try and coordinate with the dude that runs it. We knew it would be expensive, but it’s something that just had to be done in order for me to sleep at night.

So Dad transferred money from my money market account to my checking. With some of that money I paid off my credit card bill. From there, with my new clean slate, I got an emergency credit increase to a whopper of an amount. (Let’s just say I would totally have sex with that amount of money, and leave it at that.) After we called the condo renter to get the final amount, which was more than we had anticipated, we did some room arranging, I cried a little, I called every adult member of my family, called my mom, called my dad, called my brother, looked at the amount we had to work with, Fiance called the condo dude again, I cried a lot, and after a few choice words and some misunderstandings, we had everything figured out just the way it was supposed to be. Fiance asked, “After all this, do you still want to marry me?” “Of course. I don’t want to have to do this again in the future.”

Then came the Make-Me-Feel-Better-or-Never-See-Me-Naked-Again sex. And it was gooooooooooood. And suddenly nothing else seemed worrisome.

Crys on the death of Michael Jackson: “He was a genius! Until he let the Crazy take over”

I miss you more than MichaelBay missed the mark, when he made Transformers 2.

Okay, that line is partially a lie. I liked, maybe, 75-80% of this movie. However, I do not feel that it was kept true to the first one. It DID pick up where the first one left off but that’s kind of where the similarities end. As always, love the action, love the actors (yes, even you Ms. Fox) and love that the Decepticons cannibalized their own kind to save the life of Megatron. Naughty!

I could have used more info on just WHY the Decepticons were growing their own race of auto-babies. I would have liked to see more Decepticons choose to join the Autobots, as briefly mentioned as it was. I would have liked to have less pot-brownie eating, empty nest hating, republican mother of Sam all around. She’s annoying.

I LOVED that there was a message, however subtle, telling the kiddies that becoming a Prime is not inheritable, but comes from being a good, upstanding robot, er…person.

Apparently no sequel is complete without old geezers telling you how it was in the “olden days”, complete with flashbacks, a hott fembot female seducing the lead with a probe that seems to come out of her cooter, and a pair of ghetto twins layin’ down everything short of the F-bomb. (Really, Mr. Bay? Really? You KNOW that kids are going to see this film. Why make it so much more vulgar than the original?) I’m no prude by any means, but we were surrounded by kids and even in the dark of the matinee I could see the parents wincing. Also, a character used the word scrotum while he was underneath two wrecking balls between the monsters legs. Wouldn’t it have been cooler if that robot used them to destroy things instead of them banging around like a skinless sack? Wouldn’t it have been easier to not have animated them at all? (And to the point of “voluptuous” robots? Yes, the motorcycles are sexy, but as motorcycles. Don’t give them and Angelina Jolie-esqu voice and robo-boobies. These are Transformers; not Terminators.)

Unfortunately, we did not see enough of Super-Freaking-Awesome-Kick-Yo-Ass Optimus Prime, which apparently is part of the comic/series as per my childhood-nerd of a husband. His fight scene was sadly cut short by so many slow motion running clips of Megan Fox earlier. I realize that this is necessary for the nerdly fan base to make it new and exciting. Having boobs, and her being much hotter than myself, I will just chalk it up to jealousy. Hey, at least I’m honest about it. An all-too-complicated death scene for our human liaison, Shia LaBeouf, an opening complete with Neanderthals meeting Decepticons for the first time and Josh Durhamel (yum) chasing down bad guys in Chii

From the tone of the last 3 paragraphs, it sounds like I really hated this movie, but I promise you, I did not. It was really entertaining and I was excited to watch it for days before hand. I give it a B- as is, but I’m willing to hand out an A if Mr. Bay re-releases a version erasing any trace of the Ghetto Twins. Like George Lucas should have done with Jar Jar Binks. It’s obvious I’m not the only one who thinks so, proven here.

(http://movies.msn.com/movies/article.aspx?news=415956&GT1=28101)

The last question in this article struck me in a particular way.  Read it, think, and get back to me.

Here is it for those of you who are clicking impared.

Q: I’m 52 and my wife is 44. She informed me in no uncertain terms: no more sex. So far, that’s how it is. I’m not ready to end my sex life. Is seeking sex elsewhere acceptable in this case?

Have you formulated an opinion?  Good.

I’m trying to decide whether or not I agree with Mr. Alexander.  Marriage should be all about compromise, but what do you do when you are at an impasse as simple, yet at the same time, complicated, as this one?  I DO believe that sexual expression is a basic human right, but when are you free to seek intimate sexual relations outside of marriage?  Is there ever a time when cheating on your spouse is okay?

I really like his idea of a contract being written up, but isn’t marriage already the contract?  Under no means should someone have sex against their will.  High school health class teaches us that this is rape and should not be tolerated.  Nor should someone be subjected to the other person sleeping around because they “don’t get it enough”.   (Especially if the other person IS willing to have more sex.)

Had I been answering said Asker, I would have to recommend an open and honest talk with the wife to see why exactly the sex should stop.  (It is very vague and I have a very curious mind.) 

What are your thoughts?  Should the husband commit to celebacy for the rest of his marriage (assuming this means to death do you part)?  Or should he ask his wife’s permission to take on a bed mate or keep a girlfriend?

She is a very calm and laid back kitten.

Daddy loves her quite a bit.  He should!  After all, he picked her out as a surprise for me!

She’s a very curious kitty.  Obviously.

We love her already so much and are extremely glad that we could rescue this little ball of wonderfulness and give her a loving home.  More updates to come on our expanding pet family!

Okay, so I pretty much suck at blogging now that I can’t do it at work.  It’s like all creativity just gets sucked out of my brain as soon as I leave the office.  I will have to try and do more and just keep emailing it to myself.  I have good thoughts.  I do fun things!  I just have to remember to write them down.  I have to start somewhere, right?

As an update in itself, my company is moving to it’s new building within the next few days/weeks which is exciting, Hubby and I will be taking a day or two vacation to the great Up Nort.  Ya Hey Der.  Actually we’ll be with his hilarious grandmother, so it won’t be so hick.  Awesome.

Mom and Dad stopped by for dinner tonight.  It was really nice to see them.  It’s hard, and I do know that others have it harder than me, to have only every other weekend off.  I only have two weekends a month to spend away from work, doing things that I like to do, and it gets to be much, MUCH less when I feel obligated to spend that free weekend with my parents or in-laws.  My parents are in no way an obligation or annoying, but when I feel like I HAVE to spend time with them, it takes the fun and spontaneity out of it.  Husband and I don’t get to spend much alone time together as it is, but add a mother and father figure to the mix?  Forget about it.  That alone time will become less and less because….

As an early Anniversary present, Hubby got me a kitten from the local humane society!  Her name is Nessa, and pictures of her will be up tomorrow!

I was not flirting with you via our dogs.  They really are that ill-behaved.  If I was flirting, trust me, it would not have been that train wreck of an apology and a shy smile as my dog lunged at the jugular of yours.

Some thoughts on which I can ruminate for the month of June

• My marriage will be one year old this month
• I have more money in the savings bank account now than ever before
• I have lost so much money due to the economy
• I am making headway in my job and it is nice to like it for once
• I finally feel ambitious to take the GRE again and get a better score
• Now that I have been out of school for a while, I feel motivated to do better when I get back in
• I would like to find a hobby that is all my own
• I want to take better care of myself starting with my activity level
• I want to be a better cook and make healthier meals

I think that’s enough for this month.  It is time for bed at this point.  Happy June Everybody!

Forgive the awful look on my tired, beat-down face.  I wanted to get a pic while it was still fresh on my head.  I’m sure there will be better pics in the near future.  Here is my new hair cut.  Yay!  Thanks Crystal!